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I’m going to show you how to bring your life into balance. I am going to take you through an evaluation process to determine whether you have a positive life balance or not. Once completed this will help you focus on what needs to change.

Do you ever feel your life balance is totally out of sync? Maybe you’re stressed at work, you can’t keep up with family responsibilities, or you feel unhealthy and worn-out.

No matter how good life may be for us, we all have areas of our life that could use some improvement – and for many of us, some areas need serious sorting out. How about your career for example? Are you excited to wake up Monday morning, and get to work? Do you earn what you are worth? If so, well done! What about your personal relationships, are they the best that they can be? How about your physical health? Do you find time for fun?

The question is: “Is your life in balance?”

Someone whose life is out of balance may appear to be: fatigued, remote, overwhelmed, over committed, constantly starting and stopping, multitasking, and have difficulty making decisions or finding time for many important things. A hundred years ago life moved far slower and was much less pressurised. However, over the last century there have been tremendous changes. While most of these changes have been exciting, they have meant increased demands on everybody. As people get busier they also feel more stressed and it is very much because life is out of balance.

A life in balance is one where we feel a state of equilibrium in which the demands of all areas of life are equally satisfied.

“When you are living with balance in your life, you are living with peace and harmony every day. Balance comes in physical forms, emotional forms, and a spiritual form.”

Those who achieve life balance tend to have higher levels of satisfaction with their jobs and life in general, as well as lower levels of stress and depression instead feeling happy and fulfilled.

Without a good life balance your personal and physical domains will begin to suffer.

“Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance and order and rhythm and harmony.” Thomas Merton

Happiness and wellbeing can only be achieved if there is a balance between the physical, the mental, the spiritual and the social/emotional. In truth for long term good health establishing a life balance is essential.
But of course, with the pressures of life, it isn’t easy.

So, is your life in balance?

If not, how badly out of balance is it?

Let me help you find out for sure.

Let’s do an evaluation exercise and get an estimate of how balanced your life is. We will take a realistic look at the personal, professional, and physical elements of your life as they are now and assign a score.

This exercise gives you a basic idea of where you are and where you’d like to be. It doesn’t have to be an exact measurement and it can change from day to day, week to week. What’s important is that you start to get a basic understanding that imbalance exists. By doing this you will have officially taken a first step toward making significant change in your life.

Life Evaluation Questionnaire

We are going to evaluate your life to determine how balanced it is.

By scoring each key area as it is right now. First you will look at each statement and see how many you can say apply to you perfectly. Then after you have gone through the 10 statements rank your level of satisfaction for that particular area by scoring yourself between zero and ten.

10 = totally happy – full satisfaction and achievement.
0 = totally unhappy – completely dissatisfied.

As you work through the exercises ahead, it’s important to remember that these are not tests. There are no right or wrong answers — simply answers that apply to you.

Let’s look at 10 key areas of your life.

1. Physical Health & Wellness

  • My body is in good shape, I’m happy with my weight and I exercise regularly, so I have lots of energy and vitality?
  • I eat plenty of healthy foods for sustenance and pleasure but not for emotional comfort. I am not abusing my body with too much alcohol, caffeine or drugs?
  • I have had a physical examination within the last few years and all the important measurements are at a healthy level?
  • I visit my dentist and optician regularly to ensure my eyes and teeth are healthy?
  • I have as much sleep as I need to function at peak performance?
  • I have regular breaks, take evenings and weekends off and take the time I need to relax?
  • I do not experience periods of ill health benefiting greatly from living a healthy lifestyle?
  • I have a sense of inner peace and calm?
  • I pace myself and respect my personal energy levels?
  • I feel totally in the flow of life, finding it to be fun and fulfilling?

Are you satisfied with your Physical Health & Wellness situation? What do you score?

2. Mental Health

  • I am optimistic about myself and the future ahead of me?
  • I live a life of excellence and am constantly doing my best in everything I do?
  • I see the positive in life having empowering beliefs helping me move forward?
  • I am willing and able to stretch myself and to commit to bettering myself?
  • I spend time learning new things developing my mind and skills?
  • I recognise that life is a journey and am constantly learning new skills and developing my abilities?
  • I am happy with who I am but know I can grow and develop even more?
  • I am continually learning new things?
  • I enjoy new opportunities for growth?
  • I am growing as a person?

Are you satisfied with your Mental Health situation? What do you score?

3. Finance & Money

  • I am totally honest with myself about my financial situation? Yes/No
  • I know what my expenditure levels are and live on a weekly budget which allows me to save?
  • I have repaid any borrowings or have a clear plan as to how I will repay any monies I have owing?
  • I am currently saving a minimum of 10% of my income?
  • I understand my own beliefs about money and if any one of them is holding me back I am taking action to address it?
  • I know I am earning what I deserve?
  • I have a clear financial plan for the year ahead?
  • I never feel held back by money or the lack of it?
  • I have people around me who will support me with my financial plans?
  • I feel relaxed about money and am ready and willing to open myself up to abundance?

Are you satisfied with your Finance and Money situation? What do you score?

4. Professional Identity, Career Development & Job Satisfaction

  • I have a clear vision of the life and work I want to create?
  • I am definite about my professional goals?
  • I have established specific action plans and timescales for my professional goals?
  • I rarely feel drained by the way I spend my day, essentially I have as much energy at the end of the day as I did at the start?
  • I feel comfortable and able to fully express myself in the work I do and in the way I spend my time?
  • I look forward to going to work?
  • I am expert at what I do and carry out my job better than most people I know?
  • I focus on my strengths and skills in the jobs I perform?
  • I see my working future clearly and like what I see?
  • I am totally contented with how I and my business is going?

Are you satisfied with your Professional identity, career development and job satisfaction situation? What do you score? 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

5. Primary Relationship or Life Partner

  • My partner makes me a better person, and I do the same for them?
  • My partner and I are both comfortable with sharing feelings, relying on each other, being close, and able to avoid worrying about the other person leaving?
  • We accept each other for who we are, without trying to change each other?
  • When disagreements arise, we communicate respectfully and without contempt or negativity?
  • We share decision-making, power and influence in the relationship?
  • My partner is my best friend, and I am theirs?
  • We think more in terms of “we” and “us,” rather than “you” and “I”?
  • We trust each other with the passwords to social media and bank accounts?
  • We have good opinions of each other – without having an overinflated positive view?
  • Our relationship is free of red flags like cheating, jealousy and controlling behaviour?

Are you satisfied with your primary relationship or life partnership situation? What do you score?

6. Recreation, Relaxation & Personal Enrichment

  • I find ways to add pleasure to my life (e.g., by watching movies, listening to music, enjoying a bath or reading).
  • Laughter is a part of my life, both at work and at home.
  • I participate in recreational activities that are fun for me (e.g., playing cards, picnicking, gardening or sports).
  • I make time for a hobby I enjoy.
  • I have enough energy to do the things that I want to.
  • I never feel guilty when relaxing or enjoying myself nor think about the work I could be doing.
  • I make time to ensure I am truly relaxing my mind and body.
  • I am able to feel relaxed and comfortable when I get home from work.
  • I find the time to do things just for me.
  • I don’t waste away my free time (watching TV, sleeping too many hours).

Are you satisfied with your recreation, relaxation and personal enrichment situation? What do you score?

7. Secondary Relationships

  • I feel a special connection with key people in my life?
  • The people around me inspire me and make me feel good almost all of the time?
  • People enjoy my company, I tend to be light-hearted and good fun to be around?
  • I am not afraid of being true to myself or appearing vulnerable in front of other people?
  • I am kind and generous to others and am openly willing to share and to give?
  • I openly acknowledge people for who they are, I respect others and take an interest in their lives?
  • I listen carefully and hear what people are telling me and enable them to feel completely understood?
  • I am totally satisfied with my social life and actively pursue activities that I enjoy?
  • I have an incredibly good social circle having great friends to hang out with, talk to, confide in, and have fun with?
  • I give myself time to have fun and do the things I enjoy doing?

Are you satisfied with your Secondary Relationships situation? What do you score?

8. Love, and Intimate Connection

  • I am willing to love and to give love unconditionally without expecting anything in return?
  • I am very satisfied with the level of contact I have with my family?
  • I benefit greatly from the intimate loving relationships I have with all my loved ones?
  • I am constantly lifted by my romantic attachment and connection with my soul mate?
  • I support my loved ones in what they choose to do, not imposing on them my choices leaving them free to choose for themselves?
  • I feel incredibly fortunate to have a family that support me with everything I do?
  • I do not have unreasonable demands placed on me by my family, in fact we live in perfect harmony with one another?
  • I love the time I spend with my family and I know they love spending time with me too?
  • I am proud of what my loved ones are doing with their lives?
  • I know we will always be there for one another?

Are you satisfied with your Love & intimate connection? What do you score?

9. Physical Environment

  • I keep my personal files, papers, and receipts organised and neatly filed away?
  • I love my car and it is in excellent running condition, cleaned and serviced regularly?
  • I live in a home that I love, in the geographic area of my choice surrounded with beautiful things with all the appliances and equipment that I could want and it’s all in good working order?
  • I am enhanced and nurtured by both my home and work environment?
  • I surround myself with items like music/ art/ books that make my life more enjoyable?
  • I have nothing around the house or in storage that I do not need?
  • I always ensure my appearance is smart, my clothes are always clean, ironed, and in good repair?
  • I find my environment instils me with positivity, security and safety?
  • I am satisfied with everything I have and am grateful for it all?
  • I am surrounded by things that I love and have meaning to me?

Are you satisfied with your Physical Environment situation? What do you score?

10. Passion, Purpose and meaning

  • I am giving back to my community and the world?
  • I support the communities, people, places, and issues that I care about?
  • I live life full of passion, excited by what I do, knowing I can make a difference?
  • I have something that I truly believe in that gives my life meaning?
  • I am using my gifts and talents to help other people?
  • I live a life where I’m motivated and inspired to follow my Passion and purpose?
  • I know what’s important to me and have a strong sense of my direction in life?
  • I understand what is unique about me and where I add value to others and consistently build on these characteristics?
  • I am completely satisfied with my contribution on this my life’s journey, if I were to die today, it would be with few regrets?
  • I am fully committed to doing what it takes to live the life I want?

Are you satisfied with your Passion, Purpose & Meaning situation? What do you score?

So having now gone through the 10 areas what did you Score in each of these? Select your scores from the boxes supplied and we can then let’s move on to the next section!

  1. Physical Health & Wellness
  2. Mental Health
  3. Finance & Money
  4. Professional Identity, Career Development & Job Satisfaction
  5. Primary Relationship Or Life Partnership
  6. Recreation, Relaxation & Personal Enrichment
  7. Secondary Relationships
  8. Love, And Intimate Connection
  9. Physical Environment
  10. Passion, Purpose & Meaning

Once you have these scores you can put them into a visual format.

The Wheel Of Life Exercise

The Wheel of Life is a great exercise and tool for helping you create more balance and success in your life. It is often used in coaching and is a great foundation exercise when goal-setting. It shows you the areas in which you have to make the biggest changes.

With these scores you can now create a visual representation of your life balance. Regardless of where life balance exists, it is essential to recognize whether there is a significant imbalance among these three areas or not. If there is it will eventually lead to big problems. For example, let’s say you’re spending 80 percent of your time and energy on your profession, which leaves maybe 15 percent of your effort to your personal life and 5 percent to your physical life. This isn’t going to be enough to keep these areas in balance.

The wheel of life quiz is a good way to take a look at each facet of your life, and rate it’s relative quality level, so you can uncover which areas need more attention than others.

Its going to give you a good visual reminder of how things are and what needs to improve.

You can then begin working on making this happen and change it you must because living in a balanced way success, happiness, and fulfilment become natural by products of your actions. For this reason, it is vital to develop and cultivate the personal quality of balance and live your life in a balanced way.

I want you to remember you are the architect of your own life, you have the ability to plan, build, and maintain practically anything that you desire.

You have the ability right now to change an unbalanced life into a balanced one.

Before you go I now want you to make a commitment.

Now make yourself a commitment.

As a result of having done this assessment, how do you intend to improve your life balance. What are you going to do? Again jot this down, and start to work on it.

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About the author: Larry Lewis
Personal Development & Healthy Lifestyle Blogger at Healthy Lifestyles Living which has recently been featured in the Mail On Sunday, Life Coach & Author of Goal Setting Made Easy With The Single Page Plan.

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