Are you feeling lost in life and searching for answers? Whether you’re feeling lost in the work you do, in your relationship, your role as a parent, having no purpose or simply feel lost in life in general, you are not alone. It doesn’t mean your life is feted to continue in this way. It simply means you are ready for a personal transformation.
You’ve been walking lost on this same road for a large part of your life, your journey seems to be getting you nowhere. One day, darkness overtakes you, and you lose any belief in ever finding your way, and you feel overwhelmed. Your life seems such a struggle, lost in a dense fog.
You have lost count of the sunrises you’ve watched on nights where sleep escapes you, but there is nothing stopping you from picking yourself up and finding your path, apart from you.
If you feel like you’re off track, now is the perfect time for you to gather your thoughts and move forward again. This is perfectly achievable, but you must be willing to give it your all.
You have a choice, either to rise above your challenges and live up to your fullest potential, or allow your life to stay in turmoil remaining lost in life.
Life is precious and way too short to waste in limbo.
This has become so much clearer to me over the last five weeks.
There can be very little more distressing than watching someone you love dying, screaming in agony fighting for breath and speaking nonsensically. For the last 5 weeks I have been by the side of my father watching him deteriorate, day after day after day. He is dying from Leukaemia yet for so long he holds on. Week after week somehow hanging on to breath.
It has made me realise that all humans go through a journey. We are born, live and eventually die.
“Life always waits for some crisis to occur before revealing itself at its most brilliant.” Paulo Coelho
Death is part of life, but it is essential that we make the most of our journey.
And that is the point of today’s article. However lost in life you may feel, it is essential to find your way, making the most of the time you have here. Do not allow to much of your life be spend in unhappiness struggling on a road of discomfort and dissatisfaction.
Watching my fathers struggles over the last 5 weeks has made me face my own mortality, and the time that I have got. It has been a reminder of how precious the time we have is. Our duty to both ourselves and our family to create the best legacy we can.
My fathers battle for life is my wake-up call, and hopefully I can use it is for you too.
This has been one of the most trying times in my life simply because I realized that my life had been on autopilot since facing my own health issues. While sitting by his side, helpless, I have used this time to think about my life and what I need to change about it. Do you ever find the time to discover why you currently feel lost in life or to determine how to get on the right path?
If not, do it now!
Ask yourself” Why am I here?”
Ask yourself” What did I come here to accomplish?”
Ask yourself” What gifts and talents did I bring with me to accomplish my mission?”
Ask yourself “What’s wrong with my life?”
Ask yourself “What needs to change?”
I am now going to take you through a very powerful exercise It will take about 10 minutes but will be the catalyst to finding your way.
Choose a quiet place where you will have a minimum amount of disturbance.
Sit in a chair, get comfortable, while keeping your back straight and upright to prevent your mind from becoming lethargic or drowsy.
Now stay very still and quiet, with no distractions around. Your body should be comfortable and relaxed.
Turn your entire attention and focus to your breathing. Allow yourself to breathe naturally. Don’t try to adjust your breathing. Don’t consciously try to make any changes. Just let yourself breath. Keep observing your breath.
Look around the room, and choose an object to focus your attention on. Now focus your eyes onto that object. Stare at it. Look at it clearly, pick up all the details. Colour, texture, shadow, everything about what it looks like.
At the same time, concentrate your hearing on all the sounds you can pick up. Whether in the distance, such as birds chirping, cars rushing by, distant voices, or closer by, such as the ticking of a clock.
Now concentrate your entire focus on your breathing, Turn your entire attention and focus to your breathing. Allow yourself to breathe naturally. Don’t try to adjust your breathing. Don’t consciously try to make any changes. Just let yourself breath. Keep observing your breath.
Begin to take some deep breaths in. Then breathe fully out. Keep this going for a minute or two, deep breaths in, then out. Notice any sensations in your nostrils. Sense the feelings as you breathe in through your nose and then out through your mouth.
Move your attention to your eyes. Notice every blink of your eyelids. Feel each time your eyes close, then each time they open.
You are feeling very relaxed, calm and at peace. Close your eyes.
Imagine yourself standing on a beautiful balcony at the top of a marble staircase. You can see the marble steps in front of you, leading downwards from the balcony, wide strong steps, a banister on each side, totally floodlit. You are now about to count down from ten to one … and with each descending number you will take a single step going down, and with each step you will feel more calm, more relaxed. As you take each step, you will go deeper into a relaxing state. It is a magnificent feeling, a total state of relaxation… and as you little by little go down these stairs… you will feel a sense of complete relaxation… all through your whole body… You can feel the steps beneath your feet and when you reach the bottom, you feel exceptionally tranquil with a sense of excited expectation…
10 … relax, 9 … relax, 8 … relax, 7 … relax, 6 … relax, 5 … relax, 4 … relax, 3 … relax, 2 … relax, 1 …now step off the last step. Look around and you find yourself in your very own private cinema.
Take a seat in front of your large movie screen. This large movie screen is forward of you, in front of your eyes, and raised at an angle of around 20 degrees. The screen is 6 feet in front of you.
See yourself sitting in the cinema, the lights dim, and then the movie starts. It is a movie starring ‘YOU’. See as much detail as you can create, including your clothing, the expression on your face, small body movements, the environment and any other people that might be around. Add in any sounds you would be hearing — traffic, music, other people talking, cheering. And finally, recreate in your body any feelings you think you would be experiencing as you engage in whatever the activity you are doing. See your life as it is. Watch and observe.
As you see things as they are happening, ask yourself what is missing, what would I like to see. You will be sure when you get the answer.
When you are ready to leave this visualisation exercise start to count slowly from one to ten. 1 … 2 … 3 .. 4 … 5 … 6 … 7 … 8 … now open your eyes, 9 … 10 … You now feel fully awake and totally alert. Stand up, stretch out, and feel great.
No longer only dream of who you could have and should have been. Don’t miss out on your greatness or your happiness. Find what’s missing in your life, why you’re lost in life, concentrate your effort to identify this and work closer to your desired reality.
“The greatest tragedy in the world is when the fire goes out in someone’s eyes – when they give up, when they settle. Never let that happen to you.” Denise Ryan
p.s. Have you ever reached the point of giving up? Just throwing in the towel. Some of you may be at that point today. It is always darkest before the dawn, and there is hope. No one is going to deny that at times things can get pretty difficult and you struggle to keep the fire within burning bright. It happens to the best of us. The goal here though is to never give up or settle for being lost in life. Private one-on-one Coaching with Larry is a great way to help you expand your self-awareness, gain clarity of your purpose, break through barriers and limiting beliefs, live into your true authentic self, and get the guidance and accountability to help you propel yourself forward to create the life you’ve always dreamed of! Would you like to be personally coached by Larry? Click Here!
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