As an online entrepreneur I understand the importance of getting more visibility for both you and your business. Some people fear that everyone will know their every move, that whatever you put out will be up for public scrutiny, and that someone somewhere will call you out for some mistake or other, because once out there people do like to shoot you down.
But is it better to keep yourself and your business a secret? I really don’t think so, because without marketing, sales will be hard to come by. The brand that you are building is going to be around you, so don’t be ashamed or embarrassed, and don’t let others put you off.
One of the secrets to success is being able to move beyond your comfort zone, but to do this, courage is always going to be a major requisite. Your strengths, talents and resolve, will be challenged every step of the way.
Yesterday I was talking to a very good friend. I had noticed that there were certain things he was holding back from revealing to the outside world. Now I knew he was excited about these things and I had imagined he would have wanted to have found the highest roof top and climbed up to it so that he could have shouted at his loudest so that the most number of people could hear what he had to say. But he was telling nobody. He was keeping it all to himself.
Now when you are as excited about things as he is it’s only natural you would want to share it, and secondly to get things moving in a forward direction you would want everyone around you to understand where your focus needed to be right now so they didn’t think you were ignoring them for no reason, or that you weren’t helping them out because you just didn’t want to. So I felt it important, as his business mentor that I get to the bottom of what was happening.
After a few questions, the reasons became obvious. He was afraid to leave things and people behind for a while to pursue his life’s passion: When it came to people, particularly those he cared for and believed he owed a debt of gratitude, he felt obliged to be there for them, even if it was at the cost of what he wanted to be doing.
He feared that the direction in which he was going necessitated leaving friends behind because they were on a different track to him. He didn’t want to offend them, or let them down, or leave them feeling he didn’t appreciate what they had been able to give him to this point.
He was more worried about this than the legacy he would leave behind when successful with his new ventures. Crazy! He needed a wake up call It is about putting his life into perspective; making conscious choices about the kind of life he wants to live and the legacy he wishes to leave behind, more than the friend he may be leaving behind.
As we go through our journey of life, we continuously create a personal legacy. Our legacy is the part of ourselves that will be left in the hearts and minds of others that will leave behind at various different stages. He has no doubts left a positive legacy with this friend, and was desperate to give him even more if he asked. . But this wasn’t the issue, he was holding back on moving anything forward on his new ventures so as not to upset this friend.
He was carrying what I would call emotional baggage otherwise known as guilt. But the reality was, there was nothing for him to be guilty for.
It’s hard to let go of our past. It’s part of who we are and the journey we’ve taken. This friend may have invested a lot of time and energy in him, after all that’s what relationships are all about. We all get a lot of good out of our relationships, not all of which is obvious. At times these relationships may go off in different directions. As long as we each have the best intentions for ourselves and for those whose lives we touch everything would be done in the right way. And we all take benefits from such relationships.
But to feel guilty that to follow our passions is taking us on a path that may lead us away from others, well that’s crazy. In terms of the Law of Attraction, guilt is a heavy vibration that wastes our energy and weighs us down. Emotional baggage will do nothing other than increase our inertia and slow our momentum. Guilt will turn one day into regret, then disappointment, before moving to resentment, and finally to anger. Now there is a recipe for disaster, and a good way to destroy what is a fantastic relationship. That would indeed be dumb!
Never should we hide our true selves from the people we interact with. Be proud of who we are and the things we want to accomplish in life. . Carrying negative emotions will slow you down and trip us up when we try to move forward.
The problem is that we are afraid of what will happen if we are honest, open and genuine. Well guess what, if we are, and others don’t like what we say, and react bad …. so what. At least we will have released a tremendous drain on our energy. Alternatively we will remain friends for ever supporting each other whenever in whatever we can.
Remember, what you focus on is your choice and your responsibility, regardless of what happened to you in your past, what is happening right now, what will happen in your future. It’s up to you because only you can choose your own thoughts! This is what the Law of Attraction teaches us.
Never expect others to be upset with your choices in life. Never hide your dreams and aspirations if they are what you want your life to be about for the rest of your life. Expect that others believe in you, and would want only what’s best for you. Isn’t that what a true friend would want, after all?
Follow this motto: “Who we are is all we are”.
Never forget whoever you are, that success requires you to reach down deep inside, to fight with everything you’ve got, to be willing to leave everything out there on the battlefield.
But never hide the direction in which you are going. Tell the world. Have faith in their reaction! And remember on your journey you will be helping others, and others will be helping you.